How to get your woman on YOUR wedding wavelength

So you went down on one knee and popped the question.  Not only did she say yes, but she’s now having the time of her life showing off the engagement ring that cost you three months salary, looking at venues, choosing flowers and oohing and aahing over dresses.

But chances are your enthusiasm for making her your wife has now cooled a little and whilst you are really looking forward to the day and to be being the leading man to her leading lady; it really seems it’s all about her being the centre of attention.  What about you?

Our Wedding

Make her smile by mentioning “our wedding” regularly, gently reminding her that it’s a big day for you too and that yes you would like some input.


Make sure you write your important dates across your Nuts/Michelin/Rachel Stevenson calendar, including Sunday services to hear your banns being read, stag/hen weekends, appointment at the suit hire shop, her birthday, when the invites go out, RSVP date.  When she sees how much you’ve got on the calendar, she won’t give you too much more to think about.

Off-Limits Time

Book a weekend break away and insist that you do “couple” things without mentioning the W word.  Book a lovely hotel, run her a bubble bath, cook her breakfast in bed, or just stay in bed all weekend and remind her why she’s marrying you in the first place [nudge nudge].

Think Like a Woman

Whilst you don’t want to pay a great deal of attention to the finer detail, you tell her that’s her forte; why don’t you let me sort out the honeymoon – think of the time you can sit surfing the net looking for the perfect trip together and if you are a good negotiator think of the money you will save playing the agents off against each other.

Flatter Her

Tell her regularly what a fantastic job she is doing and she will be more inclined to let you sit back and watch her do all the hard work.  Tell her how much you appreciate what she is doing, by boosting her ego you’ll get her on your wavelength faster than you thought possible!

Don’t let her ask you to make decisions on things she has chosen

You know she’s already chosen the invites, she’s been looking through websites for months.  Tell you trust her judgement and would like to see her top three favourites so you can help her decide on THE ones.

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Happy planning!

Congratulations …

Both my eldest cousins have announced this year they are finally getting married. Congratulations to Mark & Louise who will be getting married in April, and to Gemma & Martin who are thinking about a winter wedding next year.

So that’s two more in the diary for next year, hopefully they will allow us to design some special wedding stationery for them …. better hurry though we are booking up fast.

We used to say to brides coming in to book for weddings up to two years away, come back in about 6 months, but they don’t. THEY WANT TO BOOK NOW. So we go by their timescales, put them in the diary and then have all their details ready for them when they are ready for us.

Doesn’t help me though when I date everything on the accounts 2009 because I’m already working on January through to April weddings next year!

I was “browsing” some of the competition websites yesterday, I need to pull my finger out and do some designing or refresh some old ideas at least. Any ideas anyone?